Don't Ask Me Anything You Can Google
Last week I had lunch with a friend to catch up and we found ourselves discussing something I believe is worth a blog rant.
In this day and age there is almost nothing you can not teach yourself with the abundant amount of resources the world wide web has to offer.
While I have a significant following that contributes to the likeliness of people asking me tons of questions on a daily basis, I know this topic to be true for just about anyone that does something well.
When someone is good at something - running a blog, hosting a podcast, creating video content - it’s understandable that you would admire them and trust their opinions on how to go about doing something similar yourself.
Let me tell you this though- if you already lack the hustle to figure out on your own what they had to teach themselves, you will most likely not succeed anyway. In addition to that it is extremely annoying to be badgered with questions that you can drop in a search engine….for free.
There are a 1,000 if not 1,000,000 people who will provide you with guides, videos, etc on anything you can think of. You just have to do the searching yourself.
Before I launched She Really Had A Baby I spent months reading up on the pros and cons of Wordpress vs Squarespace. When I finally choose Squarespace (which I currently am not the happiest about) I spent hours, days, and weeks watching videos on how to build things out.
I still spend a great amount of time researching just about anything when I need to make updates and changes. I’ve made mistakes that have cost me money.
I’ve also willingly given money by investing in myself with training tools and guides to enhance my brand (see: there are people you can give money to, to teach you things).
Plus, I’ve put in the work.
When I have asked something of someone, it is because they made themselves readily available as a resource and or that is their job. Ladies and gentleman, I am not resource and this is not my job.
People need to stop assuming that anyone wants to use any of their free time to teach them how to do a god damn thing. It's almost become a shameful and selfish like thing, to not want to constantly pour into other people.
I don’t understand.
After spending 3 days comparing lighting set-ups why would I want to tell you what kind of lights I have and where I bought them?
I do not know how to tell you how to start a YouTube channel. I’m sure the same button I clicked when I started mine is still available.
The recipe for the meal I just posted is on the same Pinterest app that you to have downloaded on your phone.
Use your own time and your own resources to figure things out.
Stop being a nuisance.
I think this can be a weird topic of discussion because supporting and uplifting one another as women and creatives is important. That is something I truly believe in. This is why I make suggestions and volunteer information when and how I can, I just personally don’t enjoy being asked.
Also note that an exchange of information and a mutual pouring of into one another is completely different than someone running you dry.
There is nothing wrong with approaching someone and wanting insight into something, but you should also be prepared to be an available resource of some sort for them too.
I have an internet friend who is already pretty successful on her platforms but wants to breach off into YouTube. When she asked me about YouTube though, she didn’t say “How do you start a channel?”, she said “How did you find your voice?” .
This not only created an interesting and meaningful conversation, but it’s also not something that caused me to drain myself in the process of pouring.
I say that to say if you’re going to approach someone with anything you need to make it impactful, make it meaningful, and make the conversation worthwhile…otherwise, google it.